Does this Sound Familiar?
I coach Midlifers who are interested in reclaiming a life of passion, purpose and inspiration. If you’re struggling through one or more painful and uncomfortable life changes anywhere between the ages of 30 and 55, you’re likely to feel like working with me.
It might also be that you're not necessarily in the midst of massive change, but feel empty somehow - like there's more waiting for you. You know you need to grow and expand, but feel stagnant and stunted.
When I say changes, I mean anything from recovering from a painful divorce or break-up, losing your job, being confused about where to go next, losing a loved one, depression, dealing with betrayal, relationship problems, dealing with physical changes like menopause, or recovering from substance abuse.
I am inspired to help you make your way through the sticky stuff and to help you learn the intrapersonal and interpersonal skills needed to navigate any future changes with grace and strength.
"When your eyes are tired the world is tired also.
When your vision has gone no part of the world can find you.
Time to go into the dark where the night has eyes to recognize its own.
There you can be sure you are not beyond love."
- David Whyte
Are you Grappling with Thoughts like These?
- My partner or spouse had an affair or dumped / divorced me and I’m struggling to deal with the hurt - how do I work my way out of this and even begin to think of being lovable or loving another again?
- I don’t feel like I know the person looking back at me in the mirror or my partner is changing and doing unpredictable things – is this a midlife crisis? How can I get through it and feel a sense of purpose again?
- My children have all left home and I don’t know how to make meaning of my existence anymore – how do I create a life without them, focused on me and make my way back to sanity?
- I am lonely and feeling isolated – I’m drinking more than I used to and I’m worried that I’m losing my grip – how do I deal with this mess? How do I not go down the slippery slope of addiction and regain my balance?
- Every day feels like a struggle. Multiple things have gone south in my life – I feel overwhelmed and stressed out – is this depression or burnout? How do I stop the urge to commit suicide and give up? How can I feel alive again?
- I’m getting older and my body is changing in strange ways that I don’t like – how can I regain my self-confidence and self – esteem? How can I live with this new reality and feel good about me?
- I’ve lost someone close to me and cannot cope with the heartbreak of never seeing them again. The people around me are uncomfortable speaking about it. I need some emotional support. Who can help me to process my grief and feel peaceful without forgetting my loved one and the memories that we shared?
- I feel like a failure because of unfulfilled dreams and ideals. I don’t know who I am and where I’m going anymore – how can I regain a spark and passion for the rest of my life?
- I’m stuck in emotional patterns that I can’t seem to break and my relationship is suffering. I’ve tried so many approaches, but nothing seems to work. How do I actually change the way that I show up and have greater fulfilment in my relationship?
- I’ve done the detox and am clean from substance abuse, but the reality of not slipping back is hard. How do I cope with the daily challenge of not succumbing and going back to the darkness? How can I move forward and live the good stuff that I have inside?
Great Reasons for You to Work with me:
This is what I believe. If any of this resonates with you, we're on the same page and we could do awesome work together.
I believe . . .
- In accessing your whole intelligence, not just your head. Like the Papua New Guineans say: "Knowledge is only a rumour until it lives in the muscle." Your heart and your body hold information for you that will help you to expand your awareness and live a full life.
- In being brave enough to be vulnerable. Total honesty in sharing your story, however hard it may be, liberates you and others to enter a level of intimacy and humanity that is truly powerful.
- In being perfect in our human imperfection, and loving it. There is no one else like you and how you show up in this life cannot be repeated. That is perfect.
- In leaning into discomfort. As Joseph Campbell said: "The cave you fear to enter, holds the treasure you seek." To feel the full range of your emotions and honour them as messages from your instinctual self. When you learn how to engage with these messages, you learn what they ask from you and your life becomes rich and real.
- In growing resilience. You are far more powerful and brilliant than you think you are. The human spirit comes equipped with a tensile strength that allows people like Victor Frankl to survive the Holocaust and go on to help others through logotherapy. If he could do that, imagine what you could overcome? I like what Shane Koycsan said: "If your heart is broken, make art with the pieces."
- In riding change bareback. Sure, it's tricky and it requires skill, coordination and big balls. To ride a horse bareback requires a strong bond and communication with the horse. Imagine approaching change like that and you will learn to dare greatly.
- In beauty, love, passion and gratitude. "Life has no meaning. Each of us has meaning and we bring it to life. It is a waste to be asking the question when you are the answer.” - you can see I like Joseph. If you're willing to get to know yourself well and follow your bliss, you can answer the questions of your life.
- In walking each other home. We are social animals and we need connection and support. Isolation is a killer.
- In living with a whole and open heart. When someone we know is diagnosed with a terminal disease, we value our time with them more. Shouldn't we realise, now, that we are blessed to be alive and that we may just have this one day left?
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